I am so SICK AND TIRED of seeing/hearing females say "all n*ggas aint sh*t & they all cheat" NEWSFLASH:not ALL MEN are the same! Stop messing w/ these young immature boys who dont know what they want &/or have in their life. People do what YOU allow them to! Dont complain OR generalize about the males in your life that you KNOW treat you like a doormat but still allow in YOUR life. Its not just him to blame, YOU are at fault also!
First off, I feel like things such as self esteem, self value, self love, and how you are to be expected to be treated starts at HOME and with YOURSELF! In a perfect world, there are two parents in each household, and the household is loving and caring. The father shows the children (both men and women) how a woman is suppose to be treated by a man, both by telling his children and be constantly displaying that when interacting with his wife/the mother of his children. And the mother shows/tells the children what is to be expected from a woman, by telling the children and showing them when interacting with her husband/children's father. But this isnt a perfect world and things dont work like that. We have both males and females who grow up and come from single parent homes, broken homes, foster homes, mixed families, abusive homes, neglected parents...I can go on and on. If a child is not taught early on how to treat others and respect themselves, than most likely when they get older, the nasty cycle will continue. A man should NEVER raise his hand to a woman. A man takes care of home first.
I can NOT say with 100% certainty that Jonathan has been faithful for the two years we have been together. What I CAN say, is that he takes care of home very well. And by this I mean, if there was/is someone he is messing with I havent caught him or found ANY clues about her. No phone calls, texts, visits to my job or house, his house, no facebook wall posts or messages to neither him or I. And I believe that alot of this contributes to the fact that he grew up in a two parent household, his parents are still married and together to this day. His father has shown and taught him how to treat a woman and his mother has taught and shown him how a woman is suppose to treat a man. And for this, I am so so soooooooo grateful.
Not to say that only those from two parent households will have successful HEALTHY relationships because that's not true either, the percentage is just higher. There are also those who grew up like Jonathan and for some reason become abusive to women, criminals, unfaithful dogs...etc etc. But the key thing, is that when someone (man or woman) shows you that he/she doesnt respect you be either hitting you, calling you names, cheating on you, etc etc LEAVE THEM ALONE! Once a man cheats, and YOU STAY, you are allowing what happened to continue. Are you really surprised that he cheated, yet again, for the fourth time after you discovered he cheated the first couple times? At this point, his isnt playing you, you are playing yourself! When you demand more, you receive more!
And what I DESPISE the most, is when a woman will pass up a GOOD MAN for a LOW LIFE THUG, stating, "he isnt my type". Oh so, being treated like a queen, him being faithful and committed to you, a working man, a man striving to better not only himself but you as well, him respecting you, loving you whole heartly and never hurting you....isnt't your type? Buuuttt....the one who had a kid when you met him, baby mama drama, no real job or a dead beat job that isnt going anywhere, hanging on the block, you constantly defending your relationship to others, you always crying (NOT tears of joy), you getting into it other females or other females telling you about YOUR "man", you always catching him up with another female, if you have a child he isnt really there for him/her and that's IF he is claiming your child AT that moment, him not claiming you, in and out of jail, him calling you names, publicly humiliating you, him hitting you, is YOUR type?
Well damn! And you wonder why you are a doormat? Look at the men YOU ALLOW in your life! If you won't trust just anyone in your house, or to drive your car, or to use something special to you without them proving that they are worthy first....why won't you do the same with your heart, mind, body and soul? You will always fall for the wrong type if you continue on with these actions that clearly show you don't have love for yourself. I know people make mistakes, and grow and mature. But if you continue to make these same mistakes over and over, there are no longer mistakes, these are choices. You are choosing to be someone who you know is a cheater and can't bring anything to the table for you and your family (if you have children).
Don't be dumb ladies.
Don't fall for that type.
"If you dont treat her like a queen, you gon be a lonely king"
Yall need to listen to Fab, he makes sense at times!
