"Fish Dont Fry In Da Kitchen...."

I recently had a conversation at work with my manangers and other co-workers about love and relationships etc, etc, clearly.....there was so much to the conversation that it will be split into two parts. This first part would be on the way to a man's heart.

Now one of my co-workers, named Aisha, is 32, and happily married with two sons ((by her husband)). And as she was leaving, she was telling me and my other co-workers what she was going to cook for her husbands and boys the following day, which happened to be a thursday. My manager was like, "you doing all of that on a weekday". And Aisha replied, "why yes. That's the real way to a man's heart, thru his stomach." And now I have to disagree.

I am happily engaged and soon to be married and I don't cook. Sure I know how to do simple things, like tacos, hamburgers, and skillet dinners, but not turkey, chicken, mashed potatoes, cornbread....real "soul food, sunday dinner type ish". So does that mean that Jonathan doesnt really love me because I dont know how to throw down in the kitchen? And I expressed to Aisha and my managers that I am just to busy to cook. LSAT, school, doin homework, studying, actually working for them ((lol)) and being in a relationship ((because that takes works too, but that's another blog for another day lol)). I make simple things that can be whipped up real fast, in like 20 minutes or less. And with the career path that I have chosen to follow, my crazy life will be bumped up to hetic! And I dont see where learning how to cook and do all that other house-wife type ish will fit in!

I believe that saying still may have some value to it, but it is more old fashioned than anything. That was during those days when women were expected to take care of the children, the house, and cook and clean all day. Not to say that there is anything wrong with being a house wife because I dont want to offend anyone, but times have changed very much since those days. Women want careers just like men do. Women aim and strive to be doctors, nurses, presidents and CEOs of companies, real estate agents, and lawyers! And men want women who are just as driven, focused, and ambitious as they are. Jonathan is not with me because of what I can do in the kitchen, nor in the bedroom, but because we can build a foundation together to make a better future for the both of us. The majority of men know their own way around the kitchen now a days! They arent strangers to the skillet! lol

I know it may be nice to come home to a nice cooked dinner and massage and hot bath, but to tell the truth, most days Jonathan may make it home before me. And some days he may not. We will deal with it when we get there. So the question still remains, "to learn to cook or not?". And for the moment, I would have to say to not. Not at least until the children get here, and than, with the combined income of me and Jonathan, we can always hire someone to cook for us ;)