You Just...Greedy!!!

“Like it’s my fault that she got on welfare. I told her, we can go half on the Similac and a daycare. But no, she got comfortable at the bottom and wanted to stay there.”

Lyfe took the words right out of my mouth. I couldn’t have said them any better myself. Now I know that there are indeed some single moms who truly do need the assistance from child support. But I also know quite a few mothers who don’t. They (the mothers) are doing fine and some are even more than fine without the assistance of child support. However, these females are still bitter. And as a result, the child’s mother tries and put the child’s father on child support out of spite. There are two things that I have learned when it comes to dealing with spite:

1) Spite is a very hard emotion to contain, which leads to a person trying to (and sometimes succeeding) to take a form of action.
2) 98.9% of things done out of spite, the person who acted out of spite ends up regretting it down the road, rather it be short or long term.

Now I am NOT by any means letting the males off of the hook. If you were man enough to create the baby, be man enough to take care of the baby. Take care of your responsibilities fellas! And don’t stop being a father to your child if/when you stop messing around with the child’s mother. Both parents need to act as adults when it comes down to matters that pertain and affect the child.

But women definitely need to stop acting out of spite when it comes to these children, because the one that gets hurt and affected by it the MOST is the child. Oh, toand a little ps for you ladies that is quick to pull the child support card and then turn around and try pull the “you can’t see your baby card”….nope, nope! You cannot do that ladies. If a man (or woman) is paying child support, that man has visitation rights bound by the law because of the fact that he is paying child support. So when you think you’ve won because you got your “baby daddy” on child support AND you control when he gets to see the child, you’re wrong! You’re out here losing and you are doing your child a disservice and an injustice. And don’t be mad if he turns and take YOU to court because you are denying him rights to see his child. You must remember when playing with fire, to be careful, because someone is bound to get burned, and that someone just may be you.