Scared Of Lonely

"I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along a wall
And I'm scared of the only heart beat I hear beating is my own
And I'm scared of being alone, I can't seem to breathe
When I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me
I'm scared of lonely, I'm scared of lonely"
Too often do women feel like this. They are scared to be alone, well lonely. But alone does not always equal lonely. How can you expect someone to love you for who you are, if you don't know who you are in the first place. Why are you scared to be alone? Are you scared to be alone with your thoughts? You will be stuck with your flaws and short comings?
But here is the thing....EVERYONE HAS FLAWS AND NO ONE IS PERFECT! Even when it may seem like a certain someone is perfect, believe me, they are not. The grass is not greener on the other side, it's green where you water it. Yeah, the girl next door green may look green and healthy, but you dont know how much her water bill is and to what cost she has to go through in order to get it paid.
Some females are so afraid to be alone, with themselves, that they will settle for ANY man. He can be a HALF OF A BOY, not even a man, but they will keep him around because they are scared to grow old alone. Why? Don't you know by keeping this boy around you just may very well be blocking your blessing of allowing a real man to come into your life.
If the good is outweighing the bad, and I mean, really outweighing it, than you have to let that relationship go. God gives us signs that certain people are not for us, yet we see the signs and ignore them. Yeah, we sometimes choose to live in a selective reality. And we have to stop this because the only one that is getting hurt in the end, is us, well you in that case. There are so many girls ((some are friends, some are just girls I know, and some are girls that I dont even like, but Im not a hater and I give credit where credit is due)) that can do better and they dont. Simply because they are afraid to be single, because to them, single equals alone which equals lonely. Well if you enjoy the person that you are always with ((which is yourself)) you can never be lonely! And if you have great friends, you will never be lonely either!
I know sometimes you want more than yourself, and more than friends, but at what cost? Your health, your sanity, your pride, your image? What lengths will you go thru just to keep a boy? In the end, you will realize, that you were already alone in that relationship, so just cut the dead weight and free yourself for someone good to come along. Believe me sweetie, just like you got him, you can get someone else, and someone that is better. Please know your worth, because if you don't, you will sell yourself short every time!!!
"I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of be the only shadow I see along a wall"
But sometimes, one healthy shadow, is better than two sickly shadows....think about it....
would you rather be alone or play the role of the broken hearted girl?
Yeah you have a man, but he comes with all these problems, other girls, drama, baby mommies, kids ((other than yours)), no job, refuse to grow up, and just cant seem to be faithful.
The only reason I feel I can speak on this subject is because I been there, done that, got the t shirt and will not be going on that road trip again. And if I can do it, I know these other girls can. You never know how strong you have to be untl being strong is the only choice you have....
but that's a choice that you have to make on your end....
To be alone or play the role of the broken hearted girl over and over again?
I am blessed to say that I'm not longer in that situation where I have to pick between those two....but when I was....
I picked to be alone

and take a look at me now......