Betrayal....At Its Finest???

"Yo rude boi, why you cross me, like a little t?"
Betrayal.
Such an ugly word. And no one wants to be on the wrong end of it. No one should really want to be on either side of it. But the question I am posing today is...."is some betrayal more worst than others?"
And my answer is yes. But remember, this is just my opinion.
I feel that some things, some forms of betrayal, a person can forgive, and continue on with that relationship, rather it be a friendship, romatic relationship, co-workers, etc etc. However, there are some things, that can be forgive {in due time} but the betrayal was so great, that the relationship is totally damaged and can not be repaired and it is best for all parties to go separate ways.
Betrayal comes in many stages, but it also depends on the individual and what betrayal is to them. What I may feel like is a small form of betrayal may be a bigger deal to some one else.
The bottom line, is that no one likes to feel the sting of betrayal. No one like to feel like someone balantly disregarded the relationship and the trust of the relationship. It is not a good feeling.
I can possibly get over if a female friend of my mine, talked to an ex boyfriend of mine. It would bother me for a while, but depending on the relationship I have with that girl and the relationship I had with my ex, in {due time} I would be able to forgive and still be that girl's friend. If one of my closest friends sleeps with like my husband to be ((which I hope and pray will never happen, but I trust Jonathan and Pavielle lol))that is really unforgiveable and I would not be able to be with him nor be her friend again. But that's just me. I've seen this happen and all parties were able to move past it. Not me.
Betrayal isn't good. So just try to avoid it at all cost. The best way to avoid it, ask yourself, "what if he/she was doing this to me? How would I feel or react?" And it you cant answer, or you get a negative answer....just stay away.

Betrayal is never good, for anyone. Heed my warning and stay away before you be crying and your nose is all stuffy!

Whole New Decade

Sooooo, it's 2010! I could not wait for this year to get here in 2006. LOL....I graudated from high school in 2006, and now Im graduating from college in five months!
I said last year when 2009 first came in, I told everyone else that they could have 2009 because 2010 would be my year! I already claimed it! Yes, it's mine!. Alot of great things are going to fall into place for in this great year.
Along with my success and accomplishments, will be challenges and hard times, and because I know this already, I am ready for whatever is going to come my way. I have God on my side, so I know there is no way I can lose!
None the less, 2010 brings the start of a new year, a new decade and new learning experiences.
I won't say that I will change, because I progess, mature and develop every day, not just when a new year comes along. So I will continue to do as such.
Can't wait to see all the great things of 2010!

Regret

Looking back, I regret doing some things that I have done in the past. There are some things I regret not doing when I had the chance. If I had a chance, there are some things I would do over altogether. I just live with these regrets and try and make things better as I continue on in this life of mine. But there are certainly some things I would change of my past, if I could........

If I Knew Than...

I hear the phrase, "If I knew than what I know now...."and this could not be anymore true for me right now.
Going through my senior year and trying to juggle everything else with my work for my classes, is a real struggle. I just received my lsat score back, and Im not as pleased as I thought I was going to be. At first I was thinking about doing Teach For America and putting law school on the back burner for two years. Teaching children was never in the plans for me, but it may very well be a back up plan. Teach For America will pay for law school and its entirety, and in return I will have to teach children in proverty for two years. My only problem is that I dont know if I want to put law school on the back burner for two years.
I really wish sometimes that I could go back in time and start all over again. Just be a freshmen at Howard Univeristy and do my undergrad experience all over again. I wish I knew as a freshmen, what I know now as a senior and maybe my senior year and this transition wouldnt be so difficult for me.
Now by all means, I am not complaining at all. I am very blessed to be in the position that I am with, with my struggles and all, but sometimes it gets to be too much.
As a told a peer earlier, I cant go back in time, I can only push forward. And I have to continue to push foward and I will do so. Just wish I knew back than what I know now.
"Back in the day when I was young, Im not a kid anymore, but some days I sit and wish I was a kid again"
Man aint that the truth!

Burning Bridges

Someone once told me the hardest thing in life is deciding which bridges to cross and which to burn. However, when you decide these things, you must keep in mind that the bridges you want to burn you don't need the people on the other side. Don't burn bridges if you know you can't swim. If you know you will need that person and/or that connections that that the person offers, than don't cut that person off completely...but keep them at a distance.
I regret cutting off some of the people that I have cut off but not because I feel like I will need them later on down the road. Just miss the friendships sometimes, but I realized that although we were friends for an amount of time, our lives were going in different directions and it was time to part, thus those bridges had to be burned. Jonathan's aunt always tells us that in order for two people to walk together, they must agree. When the people don't agree...that's when its time for the bridges to burn.
Burning bridges may be a good or bad thing, depends on how and why the bridges were burned. And you will see the results of whether it is in the long run. So choose your bridges wisely!

Mr. Houston

Now anyone that knows me, know that I love, love, LOVE....MUSIC! It is the soundtrack to my life! Music picks up where words stop! I like all types of music, country, pop, hip hop, r&b, all that good ish! But this blog will be about one artist in particular, Marques Houston.
I will not lie, I am not a die hard IMX or Marques Houston, I only have a couple of his songs on my Ipod, and they are the songs on the radio, like "Circle" ((classic by the way)), "Naked", "Because Of You" and "Sex With You"....however, I recently listened to his new album Mr. Houston and I cannot like, I have to admit that I love it!
However I am disappointed a bit. This album was not promoted nor marketed very well and as a result, this wonderful album will not get the credit that it truly deserves! Im disappointed because his album dropped in Sept of this year and I knew nothing about it! Didn't even hear a single from it! I found out that he had a new album because I saw it on the Wendy Williams show ((yes I watch that show, I have a love/hate relationship with it lol)). And I just found out that he had a video for his single "Date" which I really enjoy, and I knew nothing about! So I decided to give it a listen.....Mr. Houston, Mr. Houston....
I really, really like the flow and style of this album. I honestly enjoy all of the tracks, and some just speak to me personally. For example, his song, "Case of You"...he sings,
"Girl, I'm feeling like I'm coming down with a case of you.
Now it started in my head but it trickled down to my shoes.
I feel so weak, so hard to breathe.
But it seems to only happen when you leave, girl.
Ain't nobody ever had me feeling quite like you do.
I'm coming down with a case of you"
and that's exactly how I feel about My Godiva Baby ((Jonathan))...enough said! lol
But than there is his song, "Date"...he tells the girl he not trying no funny business, not trying to sleep with her, just trying to take her on a DATE and get to know her better as an individual...which I feel more guys need to be like. Our generation has gotten away from it's roots and has settled under this blanet of ignorance...and things arent the way they were suppose to be anymore....
Mr. Houston shows that there are some young men out there who have not forgotten how to treat a lady....and he lets you know he does in such songs are "Restaurant" and "Beautiful Woman". And he describes how he gets a rush of feelings for a certain girl in his song, "Excited". He also goes into detail over the fight that he has with himself over loving his ex even though he know he shouldnt because she's no good for him in his song, "Letter"...
I dont usually judge and grade albums, because that is an artist's creative outlet, but this album just took me by surpise. So much that I was moved to write about it! I love this album and MH has my support! This album def gets an A+ in my book! I encourage all to go out and get this album!

Scared Of Lonely

"I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along a wall
And I'm scared of the only heart beat I hear beating is my own
And I'm scared of being alone, I can't seem to breathe
When I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me
I'm scared of lonely, I'm scared of lonely"
Too often do women feel like this. They are scared to be alone, well lonely. But alone does not always equal lonely. How can you expect someone to love you for who you are, if you don't know who you are in the first place. Why are you scared to be alone? Are you scared to be alone with your thoughts? You will be stuck with your flaws and short comings?
But here is the thing....EVERYONE HAS FLAWS AND NO ONE IS PERFECT! Even when it may seem like a certain someone is perfect, believe me, they are not. The grass is not greener on the other side, it's green where you water it. Yeah, the girl next door green may look green and healthy, but you dont know how much her water bill is and to what cost she has to go through in order to get it paid.
Some females are so afraid to be alone, with themselves, that they will settle for ANY man. He can be a HALF OF A BOY, not even a man, but they will keep him around because they are scared to grow old alone. Why? Don't you know by keeping this boy around you just may very well be blocking your blessing of allowing a real man to come into your life.
If the good is outweighing the bad, and I mean, really outweighing it, than you have to let that relationship go. God gives us signs that certain people are not for us, yet we see the signs and ignore them. Yeah, we sometimes choose to live in a selective reality. And we have to stop this because the only one that is getting hurt in the end, is us, well you in that case. There are so many girls ((some are friends, some are just girls I know, and some are girls that I dont even like, but Im not a hater and I give credit where credit is due)) that can do better and they dont. Simply because they are afraid to be single, because to them, single equals alone which equals lonely. Well if you enjoy the person that you are always with ((which is yourself)) you can never be lonely! And if you have great friends, you will never be lonely either!
I know sometimes you want more than yourself, and more than friends, but at what cost? Your health, your sanity, your pride, your image? What lengths will you go thru just to keep a boy? In the end, you will realize, that you were already alone in that relationship, so just cut the dead weight and free yourself for someone good to come along. Believe me sweetie, just like you got him, you can get someone else, and someone that is better. Please know your worth, because if you don't, you will sell yourself short every time!!!
"I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of be the only shadow I see along a wall"
But sometimes, one healthy shadow, is better than two sickly shadows....think about it....
would you rather be alone or play the role of the broken hearted girl?
Yeah you have a man, but he comes with all these problems, other girls, drama, baby mommies, kids ((other than yours)), no job, refuse to grow up, and just cant seem to be faithful.
The only reason I feel I can speak on this subject is because I been there, done that, got the t shirt and will not be going on that road trip again. And if I can do it, I know these other girls can. You never know how strong you have to be untl being strong is the only choice you have....
but that's a choice that you have to make on your end....
To be alone or play the role of the broken hearted girl over and over again?
I am blessed to say that I'm not longer in that situation where I have to pick between those two....but when I was....
I picked to be alone

and take a look at me now......